Wife Is In A Psych Unit Due To Manic Episode. Her Family Are Not Good People. When She Is Discharged Can She Insist They Stay In Our Home?

Location: Virginia, United States

What happened: My wife of 10 years had a full blown manic episode with a psychotic break. She had no idea what was going on and poor contact with reality. She has never had an episode like this before this one. I took her to the local ER and they did a psych consult, then advised she be admitted to an inpatient psychiatric unit. I was scared that she might hurt herself and agreed. My wife signed herself in for treatment. After spending a night there she came down from the mania a bit and has decided to blame me for everything that's happened. She also demanded that I get her out of the hospital. They told me I can't, that she has to appear in front of a judge for a TRO hearing on Monday and the judge will decide whether she stays in the psych unit or not.

The problem: In a very uncharacteristic show of support my wife's mother and sister drove 10 hours to see her in the hospital. This has never happened before despite my wife having previously had many serious surgeries and hospitalizations for various physical ailments. They only allow one visitor at the hospital for one hour a day so they are filling up the visitor slots so I can't see my wife. My wife's relationship with them is not good. Before this she hadn't spoke to her sister for 4 - 5 months. Her mom was abusive when she was a kid and phone calls with her mom usually end in screaming arguments. Somehow my wife is choosing to see them as the heroes in this and me as the villain. She called me today and said she's divorcing me and I suspect that whenever she is discharged she will refuse medical treatment and go with them rather than come home to me.

My question: I don't trust my in-laws to stay in our house under these circumstances. They didn't share that they were even coming which I find strange. My wife lives in our house but they do not. Can my wife demand my in-laws be admitted to our home or stay here as guests? If so, for how long? On one previous occasion they stayed for weeks then started a fight amongst themselves and I had to threaten to call the cops to get them to leave. I don't want a repeat of that. If my wife wants to go with them that won't make me happy but thats her choice. But I really don't want my in-laws in our home. I purchased the home before we got married though it isn't paid off yet if that makes a difference.