Gf Wrapped In Family Fraud That Has Been Going On For Years: What Should She Do?

Location: Belgium

I will try to explain this as short as possible. My gf has a big family; mom, dad, 6 siblings [between ages 25-8]. They live in Belgium but are foreigners from a country (also situated in the EU).

Let’s say; dad is an alcoholic. Beats on the kids and mom since before the birth of his first child [age:25]. Kids show a lot of signs of trauma but deny this fact because they see dad's behavior (the abuse) as a ’normal’ thing since they all grew up like that. Mom might be a narcist – the way she treats her daughters, especially my gf. (But this is not the point of this all so skipping this part).

Abuse by dad has been going on for years — police got involved for years — eventually it ended up in a ’legal’ divorce a few years ago, where dad is forbidden to live in the home with the mom & kids. This is not respected. Dad lives ’secretly’ in the home with them, still abusing them. Meaning his official address of residence is not there, but he still lives there. Police often do check ups to see if he still lives there – mother denies it & tells lies.

Mom & dad also wrapped their-self in financial fraud. Mother took ’sick leave’ for over more than a year, while not being sick anymore. She just does not want to work. Dad too only refuses to work.

He had a job but disappeared 2 weeks ago to his homecountry. Police came today to my gf’s home, asking her mom about his whereabouts because apparently just leaving work without saying anything is illegal. Mom lied about his whereabouts, stating she did not know and that they had been divorced for a long time.

I told girlfriend that this is her chance for all the abuse to stop and to tell police about everything her dad has done to her, her mom and her family. My girlfriend got scared because she knows if she says the truth her mother will kill her. She is also afraid of what might happen if the police finds out where he is, stating that once she tells them one thing about her dad, everything will come above water — how her mother has been into this fraud too, how her parents abuse them, how her adult sibling with her own fam knows about all the illegal stuff their parents do but yet covers them etc. She is afraid of what will happen to her and her siblings, because she knows her parents will probably go to jail.

She told me she has finally taken the courage to go tell the police the truth about the years long of abuse & fraud & more.

So, what will happen to her and her siblings? Should she go to the police? If yes, will this end up good for her or worse?

Edit: I forgot to mention that the parents have been planning on moving with my gf and her siblings to their homecountry. This is not the first time they have moved countries. They first went from their homecountry to Germany, my gf told me it was the same story with her dad and that they flee to Belgium. I told her he possible flee to his homecountry again to avoid the law. She told me her mom will now want to join him with the kids even faster because of police looking for him.

PSA: Also sorry for the way I wrote this. I’m not taking anyone on here for idiots by writing this in some ’child type of language’ but i’m really bad at writing. If I wrote this a normal way with normal sentences this would be unimaginable long. If some of the information provided seems a bit confusing, feel free to ask me so I can explain it better.