Threatened To Kick Me Out If I Comply With Dv Case. I Will Be Homeless. I Don't Know What To Do

Location: NY

I have been stuck living with my mom and brother for about 5 years. My brother has been physically and verbally abusing me the entire time. I have called the police when he has assaulted me on numerous occasions. For most of those, he faced no consequences, the police simply wrote a report, told us to stay away from each other, and drove off.

About a year ago, I was finally able to get a protective order against him that stipulated no harassment or physical touch, but it was not a stay-away order, so he was able to continue living in our home. I warned my mom and brother on multiple occasions that violating it would be a felony, but they mocked me and told me it was "just a piece of paper that nobody gives a shit about".

So a few weeks ago, he drunkenly (he is usually drunk when he gets physical) slapped me across the face and I immediately called the police. He was arrested and charged with contempt for violating the protective order. The next morning, he was released and despite now not being allowed near me at all, my mother let him come stay back at our house even though this is a violation. She says she can't just "make him homeless".

My mother demanded I ask to have the charges dropped and I made her a deal that I would under a few stipulations that I thought were reasonable: that he refrains from drinking, does not engage in any verbal or physical abuse, and gets therapy, and that if any of those were broken, I would have him sent right back to jail. She agreed and signed her name on paper.

It only took two days for me to find a bottle of liquor my brother had purchased. I confronted my mother about it, then she started putting up a fight about how she can't control him and that there's nothing she can do about him drinking. I told her I was about to call the police to have him remanded because the deal we had made TWO DAYS AGO was broken. She then threatened to drag me to a homeless shelter if I did so and so I didn't call the police out of fear.

Since then, she has been threatening to kick me out if I do not tell the DA that I want to have the charges dropped. She says that if I ruin my brother's life by cooperating with the DA, she'll ruin mine in return. I am socially isolated, have no income and no other friends or family to stay with, so this would make me homeless. The abuse has caused me mental and physical health issues that have made it difficult to find work, though I am looking.

Naturally, I cannot afford a lawyer and I just don't know what to do. I want to go through with the charges and cooperate because I cannot bear living in an abusive situation any more, but I also do not want to be homeless. I assume what she is doing is witness intimidation, but she says she has the right to kick me out at any time if she wants (I am in my 20s, my brother is older. He does not have a job either). I'm worried that if I discuss this with the DA they will charge her too and I'll just end up homeless anyway?