Parents Taking Advantage Of My Being In Adult Guardianship. Is This Legal What Should I Do?

Location: Salt Lake City, UT.

throw away because I’m scared of retaliation.

hello my parents got adult full guardianship of me (28) when I turned 18 because I have high functioning autism. I went along with it because I was young and naive and trusted them not thinking of it and scared of adulting at the time and was told I wouldn’t have to pay taxes. so I didn’t fight them on it. for the last 10-11 years since I’ve been kept inside the house and have no social life so I tend to be awkward because I feel like I’m socially Stunted and not sure what my age acts like. I didnt have a birth certificate till 3 years ago because mine was “lost“in a move so I didnt get an a State ID till 2 years ago and finally was able to get a job at 26 which the lack of work raised some questions at the workplace but everyone was cool with it when I explained I wasn’t able to get my birth certificate for so long. I was told Texas didnt accept adult adoptions till 2020. and finally got one the december of 2022. ive been in the workforce since then and was fulltime from this past January to july and was doing really well. wasn’t stressed out at all was praised for my work regularly. I was happy with where I worked and loved my job and coworkers. up until my mom (who was the one who adopted me on my 18th birthday im my dads biological son.) forced me to quit. so I folded and got a job somewhere else for less pay and part time. this entire time mind you I’ve been making decent money and could probably have moved out and got roommates or lived with my sister. but I’ve seen almost $0 of my income despite keeping track of my pay stubs and earnings. the money I earn goes into my parents bank account and if I do see some amount of money I’m told not to spend it and end up giving it back for what ever reason. since i entered the work force my parents have been taking almost monthly trips to Disneyland and a few trips out of country each time without me. they weren’t able to afford this before. so my sister and I think they are garnishing my paychecks. I’m told I can’t have a bank account of my own and at this point it’s hard to get one since I have to physically walk into a bank and make an account because to my knowledge I don’t have a credit score and I’ve never had a bank before. but it doesn’t stop there not only have I been forced to cease having a social life at 18 and have been taken advantage of financially the treatment at home is poor. I am gaslit constantly into believing I’m stupid and told I would never have graduated high school without modifications. which I disagree with but I find my resolve faultering. I was a good student honor roll every week won an award for being a stellar example of a student for a quarter and made straight As. I also made it a point to use as little of my available modifications as I could just to prove to myself I could be just like everybody else. I graduated with honors. I am belittled on a constant daily basis. my socially media phone and emails are constantly watched (I honestly don’t really care about that but it serves as an example of lack of privacy.) no one knocks before barging into my room and have been caught naked getting changed several times (did i mention I’m a grown adult). I get no freedoms.

fast forward to today my parents have left on a 2.5 week vacation to Portugal and Spain with my brother and his fiancé without me to look at potential places to live when my dad retires this coming January so we will be leaving this coming spring after my brothers wedding. I will be leaving my entire support system consisting of all 5 of my siblings to a place half way across the world where I will know no one and don’t know the language. does it sound like a fun adventure? yes and no my dad and I are terrified. he knows no one there but my mom does have quite a few acquaintances all accross europe because of her work. I have sold all of my stuff all I have left in my room is a bed and some clothes (I’ve donated most of my clothes to savers) and a couple boxes of stuff I have not sold yet but I will eventually have to let go. I am writing this post because they are gone and I feel safe enough at the moment to do it. I have been left in the care of my sister against my moms wishes because they do not get along but my sister has always stood up for me and want me to beable to stand on my own two feet we have talked to all of my siblings except the one with my parents in Portugal and they are willing to help. my sister is willing and ready to petition for relief of guardianship. if I decide to do so. she says I am very capable and she has seen people lower functioning and in a worse state go out and have entire lives and live on their own and start families and such. I haven’t had the opportunity due to my parents micro managing and control issues.

i also just found out a couple days ago my mom has gone into my google drive and deleted all of the manuscript I have written to make room for her pictures for her work she does PR for a global organization. I am an aspiring writer and while I may never see a dime earned from anything I write it is something enjoy and care about. for the record I am not counting or putting all of my eggs in one basket when it comes to writing.

I also forgot to mention I’ve had my psychi artist for >20 years and in that entire time my mom did all the talking for me and when I became an adult and tried to tell my doctor whats going on with me on a health and social level she doesn’t believe me and refers to my mom because my mom always tells her I’m not seeing reality. my mom and dad also have me lying to my doctor about how many hours I work and how often because they font want he to think I don’t need ssi which this entire time I have not had it because I refuse to sign the paper work. is that dumb? maybe but I don’t want to take money from people who actually need it.

so… what the hell do I do? is what my parents doing legal? I am on my dads insurance until he retires and will lose it if I remove guardianship, this terrifies me. is the risk worth taking? are my parents taking advantage of my disability? am I crazy for being scared of them?