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Is A 34-mile School Commute Reasonable In Co-parenting? Mediation Tomorrow — Need Perspective.

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Location: north suburbs of Indianapolis.

Hey everyone, My ex and I share 50/50 custody of our 5-year-old. She’s pushing for a private school that’s 17 miles each way (34 round trip) from my house — meaning I’d be driving 68 miles every school day when I have him.

The kicker? The school isn’t just on her side of town — it’s past her house, in the next town over. I’d literally have to drive by her neighborhood to get there.

She loves the school (and it is nice), but the commute feels totally unfair and unrealistic. It’s way out of balance logistically, and I worry it’ll: • Cut into my parenting time • Make long drives part of my son’s daily routine • Set a precedent that future decisions will lean her way

Meanwhile, our local public schools are among the best in the country, so it’s not like we’re short on great options.

Would a mediator see this as a big enough distance issue to support my request for a more central school?

Mediation’s tomorrow afternoon, and I’d love to hear from anyone who’s been through something similar — co-parents, mediators, or family law folks.

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