I Was Awarded Sole Legal/physical Responsibility Of My Child, Does It Actually Mean Anything?

Location: Denver CO USA

I’ve had an extremely high conflict ex for a decade. He regularly berates me on TalkingParents and tells me how horrible of a mother and a person I am. Sometimes he’ll send upwards of 12+ messages per day threatening me with lawyers and court or just to call me names.

Despite everything, I was awarded sole physical custody and sole legal responsibility because “coercive control” was present. Dad is only awarded specific visitation days and access to medical records, nothing else. The only thing in our parenting plan about communication is if there is no response in 48 hours, it is considered affirmative. Literally NOTHING else in our plan but holiday schedules.

Well dad is still behaving the exact same since our permanent orders came back. He still blows up my phone constantly telling me how awful and unfit of a mother I am. He tells our child this too. The content of what I message him doesn’t matter, he just polices my words, tone, behavior, or how quickly I respond. It does not matter how benign the communication is (which is ONLY ever related to updates about our son).

Does sole physical/legal custody mean I don’t need to put up with this anymore?? I thought being awarded sole custody would at least relieve me of some of the constant negative communication but nothing has changed. If nothing else, it’s gotten worse and his communication with me has increased considerably the past 2 years since our permanent orders came back.

-I also feel like it’s necessary to add, I do not argue with him. I don’t talk to him if not necessary. He hates it but I’m transactional and informational 99% of the time. So I feel like I should somewhat be free of this person with sole custody?