Sacrificial Yeses And Necessary Nos: Discern The Difference

Courtney Doctor and Melissa Kruger discuss how to make decisions about using your time. They talk about how to think of yourself with sober judgment, the wrong reasons to say “yes” and “no,” and how to recognize which callings in your life must be prioritized. Although there’s no formula for determining when to say yes or no, there’s always wisdom available from God when we ask for it.

Recommended Resources:

• Second Timothy 4:6–18
• The Envy of Eve by Melissa Kruger
• Work Well with All Types of People (The Deep Dish, episode 7)

Related Content:

• Let’s Talk: Decision-Making
• How to Know When to Say No
• Make It Your Ambition: Seven Godly Pursuits for the Next Generation by Jeremy Writebol
• Help! I’m Afraid I Made the Wrong Decision

Discussion Questions:

1. What’s a situation in which you struggled to give a yes or no? What made that decision difficult?

2. Do you tend to say yes or no more often? What usually motivates your answer?

3. What might pursuing time with the Lord in order to have a “transformed mind” look like in your life right now? What might need to change for you to prioritize this?

4. What situations has God used in your life to reveal your unique giftings?

5. In what ways do you experience tension between pursuing self-care/rest and sacrificial service? How can self-care and comfort become idols that influence our decision-making?

6. How has God provided rest for you during seasons of sacrificial yeses? What Sabbath practices help you find rest in the Lord?