I'm Fighting An Uphill Battle With My Ex. Please Help.

Location: Illinois.

Hello all. I am a mother of 3. 27 years old. I am currently going through a divorce with my ex husband (M30). We have 3 children together, aged 10, 7, and 5. We decided to separate around 4 years ago. And I filed for divorce around 2 years ago. To make a long story short, we got married, he cheated, and now we are here. Around the whole time we were separated, he told me he never had any money for the kids and I never saw more than 20 bucks over these past 4 years. He went from living in his car to with his mom. And I always had the kids with me. He worked but never had money (apparently). I was so patient and then when we went to divorce court, he got a lawyer. Never had money for the kids but had some for a lawyer. When we submitted our financial affidavits, his lawyer sent me that he had around 14k in his bank account over the past 4 years. But he keeps telling me he has no money. And in that time, my current boyfriend has been paying all the bills for his kids over the past 2 years. School supplies, food, a home, etc. in August of 2025, I finally got child support from my ex husband. 1,000 a month for 3 kids. Which is more than I could ever ask for and great full that I received that amount each month. And he finally agreed to the parenting plan after mediation. He has the kids Friday night to Sunday. And visitation Tuesdays and Thursdays. Fast forward to my last court day a week ago, they told me that they are dropping his visitation days. And that his child support is dropping from 1,000 to 800. Which is fine with me. However, I have been following the parenting plan down to the last minute for when I drop them off and pick them up. However, multiple times when I go drop them off to his house (Fridays at 6pm), he isn't there. And doesn't answer my texts. Which frustrates me cause I am trying to do my part. And I still go to pick them up on Sunday. Also, he doesn't take them to appointments. Or pick them up from school in an emergency. My bf and I do all of that. When I tried to mention this to the judge In our last hearing, she muted me on zoom and told me I can get a lawyer too. We cannot afford a lawyer. We have another court date this upcoming month. All I want is for him to be able to at least bring the kids back on Sunday. And I'll still drop them off on Friday. Is there anything I can do to just at least make this happen? It's been really hard for me to find a job with how inconsistent he is. And it would be a big help if he could just drop them off to my bf on Sunday. What can I do? Do I message his lawyer? The next court date should be one of our last.

Additional, they said he gets to claim the kids in taxes this year and the next. And when my bf and I get married, they'll be counting both our income to determine the child support. Any help would be appreciated. If you made it this far, thank you for your time and patience.