Dvro

Location: CALIFORNIA

Has anyone else experienced something like this? False allegations in court, DVROs. Could really use some advice. Thanks in advance!

I hired a family lawyer to help protect myself and my child. I truly believed it would help bring some stability after everything that’s happened. Earlier this year, I was hit with false allegations (dv) Since then, I’ve been walking on eggshells. our child was referred for an evaluation due to emotional distress & other concerning things when not under my care (recommended by their pediatrician) As soon as my ex found out I had legal support on top of the referral, things escalated again. I was blamed a second time for things i didnt do, this time of behavior toward our child & DV again, which makes no sense since it had been a month since i had seen her in person, i refused because i was aftraid she’d try to pin something on me. That weekend, my child was with me and in so much distress they refused to go back with my ex, even during FT calls with X, our child was so frightened to see her, idk why but X was furious at their reaction. My attorney told me since there was no court order at the time, I wasn’t legally required to force the exchange. Then my X showed up with officers to take our child. It was shocking & painful to see things taken that far, especially when I’ve done nothing but try to care for & protect my child. Since then, custody was taken from me on the basis of those new claims. The first thing my ex did was remove my access to our child’s medical records and take control of the referral process. mind you I’ve been the one handling all medical appointments up until she was about to be questioned. Now she’s performing for court, as if she had been an involved parent.

When we went to court recently, her attorney was in my attorneys ear and they tried to pressure me to agree to their terms, & when I refused, they asked the judge for more time. They even said that speaking up makes me “look bitter” as if staying silent is the only acceptable option. My own lawyer told me I had a strong case, but now it feels like both sides are trying to pressure me into backing down. Even my attorney told me that my X’s attorney had her file those things because that was the only way she’d gain custody of our child, yet I'm being told that trying to show everything she said was false could make things worse for me, even though I haven’t done anything wrong. In her declaration she asked the judge to no longer let me see our child, the DVTRO/TRO were pproved but judge denied the other part and allowed supervised visits. then X suddenly changed her mind and requested unsupervised visits for me before our hearing. The judge actually questioned why they were changing their stance just three weeks after requesting protection. I was granted unsupervised visits until the next hearing, but I could tell the judge had some doubts about the story being presented. Right now, I only get 1.5 hours with my child every other week Monday-Wednesday. PER EX’S TERMS. My child is still clearly distressed and doesn’t want to go with X. Nothing has changed emotionally, and I feel so helpless. I’m completely drained. I’ve done everything to be the stable parent. All I want is to protect and care for my child, but I feel like I’m being pushed out by lies and legal manipulation. I feel silenced, like I’m being told to just accept it all quietly. (Two Mom Family).

I tried looking for a new lawyer after mine messed everything up (delayed filings etc) but no luck, might have to do this on my own now, not sure since the plan backfired after hiring this lawyer. I’d like to hear stories from others of any , and see if there’s hope for me or why the heck I’m being silenced besides them wanting the easy way out.