5 Year Old Son Claims I Harmed Him. ( False Accusation For Parenting)

Location: Dover, NH

So my 5 year old son had a pretty rough weekend and now it’s turned for the worse. I received a text from my ex ( my son’s mother) saying out of nowhere that she is filing an exparte. I asked why with no response.

I came to find later that may 5 year old son accused me of “choking” him over the weekend. I was and still am in utter disbelief and shock, especially when I have my girlfriend who is a mandatory reporter (due to her line of work) who was around all weekend, and her mother and father were around for almost all day Sunday with us. All of which said that never happened and know me as a parent more than well enough that causing harm to my son is not ever an option. Either way the judge approved the exparte due to the possibility of child endangerment which I understand for the sake of child safety.

My son, who is highly reactive and total suspected ADHD and possibly on the spectrum. Has said similar things before when he’s been corrected, disciplined, or put in his room for a time out. These are the times where he claims that we are being mean or hurting him. Again keep in mind please that physical discipline is not a thing in our household due to myself actually being physically abused as a child. That doesn’t mean we are not firm with our parenting though, we make sure that he is structured and knows what can and will get him in trouble.

My ex proceeded in which I understand coming from a parenting standpoint took this seriously. Bringing him to the police, the ER, and CPS. However, my ex has been trying to bury me and on multiple occasions has tried to cut off all ties for our son and his family on my side. She is completely hard to work with due to the way she was raised and feels as if the parenting plan my former lawyer made for us over a year ago is just a suggestion. Not only that but I put myself on child support and my insurance since I wanted to provide for my son since she’s been unemployed for over 5 years and neglected his healthcare by not getting him vaccinated and all while withholding him from me as a manipulation tactic while neither of us had the money for any form of court back then.

I reached out to the investigator who was handling the case in regard to my son for the police department whom hasn’t even looked at the case but understood where I am coming from as a concerned parent. I told them that if they have any questions to reach out to me and to let me know when I will be needed for a statement.

My girlfriend, her parents, and I have come to the conclusion that what he may have been talking about is frankly a vast exaggeration due to his behavior are the reptile expo. Where I had to hold his chin gently to turn his face towards me to get him to stop and listen or when I was holding on to his hoodie since he didn’t want to hold our hand to ensure he didn’t get lost. Which he did try to run a few times, hence why we are thinking he was thinking it was “choking” him when it was just me trying to make sure he didn’t get taken or lost.

Anyways, any thoughts or advice would help greatly. My girlfriend and her parents are all willing to write statements and testify on my behalf. The court date is in December but I just want to have my son back regardless, it sucks because unfortunately the other parent doesn’t approve that we love and care for him. We, as any parent, just want him to have a great and happy life.