Men Focus Too Much On Thinking About Sex When They Should Focus On Building Friendship With Women First

I hear so many men obsessing over sex and fantasizing about what a relationship could look like with a woman without even building a genuine friendship first.

I've seen a lot of men's dating advice, and it's always about evaluating a woman's potential as a partner. They say things like if she's constantly negative or acts like a princess, dump her, she's not wife material.

The world would be a better place if men and these so-called gurus focused on how to befriend women. How to talk to them like a friend. How to make her feel like she's your sister, your bro. How to build a real connection before jumping into romance.

Without genuine friendship, there's no real relationship. There won't be sex, there won't be marriage, not if people treat each other like objects on a shelf, inspecting for flaws and red flags.

This is a huge problem because these dating gurus feed men toxic advice. They tell them to create sexual tension, to flirt from the beginning. But it just creeps women out.

The foundation of any real relationship is neutral conversations. Talking about hobbies, interests, spending time together with zero sexual energy. Build a friendship first. Then let things evolve naturally.

From a woman's perspective, I've seen it too many times. A guy starts a conversation, acts normal for a few minutes, then suddenly hits me with something creepy, asking if I have a boyfriend, demanding my number, or complimenting my body out of nowhere.

That's not neutral. That's pure sexual energy. And when a man acts like that, he's treating women like objects. In his mind, he's already planning for sex. That's disgusting.

Women feel it instantly. We're uncomfortable. We're repulsed. Because we know, within ten minutes of talking, that this guy only sees us as a target.

Men need to understand how creepy that is.

The biggest issue with men is that they can't seem to have normal, fun, intellectual conversations with women the kind you'd have with a friend. Instead, they immediately start flirting.

I once had a boss , I was new in the company and he started flirting with me on my second day in work Can you imagine? We'd only spoken for about 15 minutes total, and the next day he was winking at me and making double-meaning jokes. It was beyond creepy I was completely disgusted.