Celebrating big events for your spouse is a great way to show them that you are proud of their accomplishments.

What would you do if you planned a surprise party for your wife’s promotion, but then after the party you wanted to go out with a friend and she got upset?

That is what happened to the husband in this story, and he thinks she is overreacting and that he should be able to go out after the party.

Check it out.

AITA? Threw a surprise congratulatory party for my wife, then got in a fight because when it was over, I wanted to go to a bar with a friend.

My wife got a promotion.

Because of her promotion, I’m out of a job because we worked in the same office and the Board of Directors said it’s a conflict, so I decided to start my own business.

Maybe it would be better to plan that a different day.

I’m very happy for her and I’m very proud of her, so I threw her a surprise congratulatory party with some friends.

One of them, my best friend and former roommate, invited me to go to a bar to see a band after the party was over as a little “congrats” party between the two of us.

She overheard him ask me this, and she said let’s talk about it at home.

On the drive home, she asked me why I was being quiet.

I said, calmly, I was foreseeing a fight and I was trying to think of how to best discuss this without getting into an argument.

(I should add that I could tell before leaving she would say no because our toddler had a bad day and was being a little fussy).

She erupted, basically having both sides of the argument by herself.

She said over and over that today was “her day” and I’m ruining it by leaving her with our child that was being fussy all day. By the time we got home, it was 7:30.

Kid goes to bed at 8:00. She goes to bed at 9:00.

I would’ve been leaving around 9:00 and home whenever was reasonable to her, likely 12:30-1:00.

It seems weird to me to want to go out without your wife.

Am I wrong for trying to go out with a friend on “her day?”

AITA?

It sounds like she is feeling hurt that he would want to leave on her big day, but she isn’t expressing it well.

These two need counseling.

Read on to see what the people in the comments think about this.

This person says he did nothing wrong.

Yeah, it sounds like he does stuff like this all the time.

Yes, bring the wife!

This commenter doesn’t like how he started the conversation.

This person says he was wrong to go out on her big day.

It was nice of him to throw her a party, but he should have discussed going out with her before making plans.

This guy sounds like an entitled jerk.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.