Family loyalty can get complicated, especially when it clashes with helping someone in need.

What would you do if your teenage nephew and his pregnant girlfriend needed a stable place to stay, but his mother insisted you refuse? Would you honor the parents’ wishes? Or would you offer to help anyway?

In the following story, one uncle finds himself in this very predicament and chooses to go against his sister. Here’s how it all unfolded.

AITA for letting my nephew and his gf move in with me against my sisters wishes?

I (30m) have a 3-bedroom place just for my fiancé and me. We have the space, and neither of us wants children anytime soon.

My nephew (18m) got himself in a predicament where he impregnated his gf, who’s 17. His gf was kicked out of her home for it, and my sister(my nephew’s mother) wouldn’t let her move in, which resulted in my nephew asking if they could stay with me.

They are both graduating this month.

I had received a message from my sister saying that my nephew was packing and planning to ask me to move in, and she told me to say no. She didn’t want them living together this young, and she said she had her own reasoning as well.

He took all necessary steps before allowing it.

I didn’t see why not; my nephew was willing to step up as a father as he should, and asked me if I could give him a job (I have a small business), he even offered me rent (I own my house). I let them move in (contacted the gf’s family as well, and they didn’t care, didn’t seem like too kind of people), which resulted in my sister being very, very upset with me.

I asked her what she expected me to do. I wasn’t going to have them bouncing around hotel rooms with barely any money and struggling when I have a perfectly fine place with a room.

My sister said that if I allowed them to stay, she would no longer talk to me, and that she was showing him that these adult actions have adult consequences. I argued back that yeah, he was taking accountability for these adults’ actions, and there was nothing wrong with a little bit of help.

She called me an ******* and said I betrayed her and am ignoring her wishes as a parent. She said that I shouldn’t even have a say because I don’t know how it is, because I’m not a parent and obviously know nothing about being one.

AITA?

Yikes! His sister sounds like something else.

Let’s see how the folks over at Reddit feel about how he handled it.

This person thinks the sister should keep explaining or get over it.

She definitely can’t have it both ways.

According to this comment, there’s something wrong with her.

Great way to look at it.

Her son should step up and find housing and work to support his girlfriend and unborn child.

Rather than being like this, she should be proud he’s doing what’s right.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.